It’s been a year or more since I started this blog. I’ve read countless of blog posts from Twitter and Pinterest on how to be a successful blogger. Or how blogging can be a full time career. Many bloggers share how they build their blog and how much they make from blogging and the most discouraging part, analytics. Blog views, Twitter and Instagram followers; numbers that I have yet to achieve.
From the many blog posts I’ve read, to be a successful blogger, here are a few tips
- You need to have the passion and set goals for yourself
- Know who your audience are, find a niche
- A successful blog requires time and effort
- Be organized and plan ahead
- Schedule your content so you can be more productive
- Make use of social media, be it Twitter and or/Instagram and especially Pinterest
- Engage, engage, engage!
I completely agree with these tips and I appreciate bloggers sharing it with us. So one day, out of the blue, I asked myself this question:
Am I half-assing my blog?

And why did I ask myself this question? It’s because I was comparing myself. Which if you didn’t know, my 2019 promise to myself was to NOT compare myself lol.
So let’s start from the beginning,
Why did I start a blog?
There are different reasons to why one starts a blog. It can be a passion for writing, to make money, to inspire and help other people. Or even a hobby. I had two reasons for this blog. The first being to make friends (I’m not sure how well that turned out haha) and the second, to write about how i’ve been here in NYC.
After a year,
Nope, no friends.
But
I made great memories for myself. I’ve been exploring new places, trying out new things, enjoying my time in New York City.
Audience and niche for the blog?
Anything and everything. That’s what I want to blog about for myself, for friends, for people who don’t know me (not too sure if people who don’t know me want to read about me though haha).
I went for Broadway shows and concerts, I want to blog about it. I tried on new make up and I want to blog about it. Attended my best friend’s wedding in Malta and explored the beautiful cities there, I want to blog about it.
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Sounds like this blog has got some identity crisis haha. Basically, I don’t have a niche. I’ve been thinking about a niche right from the beginning but I just can’t decide on one. And it’s exactly because I to write about how i’ve been since I moved across the world from Malaysia.
Blogging requires time and hard work
I truly respect bloggers who are so passionate and are willing to give up so much for something they really love. I met Grace from @colorandgrace months ago when she was in New York. She told me she used to be a teacher and she’ll spend every minute that she has working on her blog. And that is truly inspiring and motivating. Well, look at her, she’s doing good! Hard work does pay off!
Me, on the other hand
I choose to relax and give myself a break after work because really, tell me you’re not exhausted from your full time job. And because of that, of course I don’t get much done. I don’t have 10 blog posts ready to be published any time, I don’t have Canva images ready to be pinned, I’m not on social media as much as I should be.
Be organized and planning ahead
is extremely important. You know what they say; work smart, not work hard. There is so much you have to do in order to have a successful blog so planning everything in advance helps a lot. Not only does it save you time to work on other more important things but you also won’t get stressed out racing with time to publish blog posts and Insta posts and engage on social media at the same time.
Sad to say,
I suck so much at organizing my work, my time and planning my shit. This was actually another reason why I decided to start a blog, I wanted to show myself how important it is to be organized in order to achieve my goals.
I don’t know if I’m deceiving myself but I do believe I am more organized than I used to be. However, there will come a day where I’ll proudly announce that I am productive af. Have some faith in me 😉
Being out there but not literally out there
I hope that didn’t confuse you but I mean being on social media. Many people have different opinions about social media. One of it is how it can affect your self confidence by comparing yourself to other influencers. And I do feel that I’m always not good enough. But in order to have your blog out there and get more exposure, it is important to be on social media and engage, engage, engage!
This is tough for me because I’m not on social media all the time. Which means I don’t engage much, people don’t know me. I don’t get to make friends. And.. okay, I can go on and on and on so let’s move on.
And the results since I started this blog is that
I don’t see much results when it comes to blog views, social media following, social media likes; basically, numbers.
However
I do think it’s a blessing I started writing, I find new things to do and not just stay home and be a couch potato. In fact, I do not regret starting this blog. By doing a little bit of everything, I’m discovering what my passion really is. Still haven’t found one ugh but c’mon, I eventually will haha.

So what do you think? Am I really half-assing my blog? Do you chase numbers like I do and get disappointed when you don’t see the results you want?
It’s nothing personal so you can be honest!
Tags: blogging
There is no one way to blog, so don’t ever doubt your ability to blog. The list of things people say to you for others will not work for you. The only thing that is important is if you are enjoying it. I definitely have found my motivation and only after 2 years have I got a proper schedule and plan in place. You have a great blog and keep going xx
Thanks love. Definitely gonna keep going! Will continue supporting you and your blog too! 🧡
Thank you, me too xx
I never really chased numbers. They tend to fluctuate so much and I don’t have much energy to keep up. I promised myself I’d only share content I’m passionate about but it’s weird not having a schedule and also sharing content on completely different things, like mental health/wellness and anime reviews. I’d like to think the quirkiness will make sense the more I blog and as time goes by. Till then I’m doing my research and taking spontaneous mental notes.
I’m glad that you’re sharing content that you’re passionate about! I’m loving blogging for myself and not worry too much about numbers now. Despite all of that worries of not blogging once or twice a week, I’m happy I got to learn a thing or two when it comes to blogging. Thank you for reading! (:
I loved this post SO MUCH!! I’ve been blogging on and off for five years- and I have not hit that success mark that everyone else seems to. I don’t work with brands, get paid from ads (though, girl, I’m TRYING!). I’d love for blogging to be my full time job, but that hasn’t happened. But honestly, despite all of that, I LOVE blogging. I’ve met some great online friends, learned so much (though I still suck at SEO and analytics. I mean, who even understands all that? I guess other people, not me). And like you, my blog doesn’t have a niche. And I suck at taking my own pictures, so I use stock photos, and my Canva skills aren’t everything, but again, I still love blogging! I don’t think you half-ass your blog, I think you’re just enjoying HAVING a blog. That’s what I’m doing at the moment. If I end up getting paid for it, great. If not, it’s a great hobby where I can write and share about experiences, new and old. And hopefully someone will find them enjoyable. You keep just doing you! If anything, you just found a anew reader! 🙂
Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com
WE ARE DEFINITELY ON THE SAME PAGE!! So glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. I never thought about how much time, effort and hard work full time bloggers put into their blog and I’m so happy I’m doing this. Also because it’s a great learning experience, I knew nothing about SEO before this too haha (and yesss.. I still can’t grasp it haha). I remember I used to tell myself, if I get DO get enough money for a cup of coffee, that’s really great but if I don’t, it’s all good, I’m doing this for myself (: YOU have definitely gained a new reader too, thank you for reading!
I love this post and the way you write! I always think the same exact thing about myself. Like I know I’m not doing terribly, but I’m also pretty stagnant and could be doing more for where I want this blog to go. I personally don’t pay attention to the numbers much. That’s how you mess up and bring down your confidence. You’ll get trapped in a world of numbers. Just have fun. If it’s not fun anymore then you shouldn’t be doing it you know? If you feel you need to step it up a notch, then do it for you and you want to.
theblackprincessdiaries.com
Blogging takes a lot of work and as long as you’re happy with what you’re doing, and not super stressed out, you’re doing good. It takes time and maybe some hiccups to make the blog work out. I know I went through a lot of mistakes over time. We live and learn a bit. I think you’re doing a great job with your blog. You are engaging with others. You don’t have to post on a very regular basis either :). Plus, a lot of us can’t be full-time bloggers. We’re out here doing it for fun. That’s what matters at the end :).
Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me
Thank you Nancy! I appreciate your comment and you reading this post 😊
What a relief to know another side blogger and full time work feels the stress and pressure of other bloggers! I’ve read posts where other bloggers say they work full time then blog 20-25 hours a week. There’s just no way I could do that and stay sane.
But blogging really helps me creatively where as my full time job doesn’t provide any spark or require any creativity.
I know this is an old post but it really spoke to me. I recently took a break from Twitter and I’m not sure if or when I’m returning. The blogging scene on there is toxic at the best of times. Your blog is beautiful and you’re a gifted writer – it really doesn’t matter at what pace you churn out posts. I just discovered your blog but hope you keep it going for years to come!
Thank you so much, your words really made my day! I’m looking forward to my progress and hopefully, I’ll do better than what I expect of myself. I love your blog too and am excited to read more of your posts <3